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Brielle Bernards

Phone Number: (801) 602-0911

Zip: 84058

Counties: Salt Lake, Utah

Primary Service: Birth Doula , Postpartum Doula

About Me: Hi, my name is Brielle Bernards and I am The Calming Doula. I am a DONA trained birth and postpartum doula. My goal is to help you have a safe and satisfying birth and/or postpartum experience (however you define that). Whether this is your first pregnancy or sixth, you want to give birth at a hospital or at home, you want an unmedicated birth or GIVE ME ALL THE PAIN MEDICATION, I can help. I bring a calming presence and I’m here to bring you whatever physical, emotional, and informational support you need before, during, and after birth.

I wanted to share the reason why I became a doula (note, this next portion may be triggering to some). When I finished my first day of birth doula training, I knew that this was what I was supposed to do. I wanted the horrible things that happened to me to have a purpose, and I wanted to help others like me not feel so alone.

I didn’t become a doula to hold babies (although sometimes I get to and it’s amazing). I am a doula because I want to help survivors have better birth and postpartum experiences.

I was sexually abused in college and have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) because of it. I talk more about this on a podcast I recorded with @risingphoenixpodcast (Episode 53). Because the PTSD is like a scar that will never fully heal, I will continue to have random flare-ups when I am triggered in my life. One of those triggers for a lot of survivors is childbirth, but it doesn’t have to be.

Childbirth can also be incredibly healing for survivors if they have the right support and have put in the work on their own (therapy). I want to help survivors feel as safe as they possibly can when they are giving birth. I want them to know that I am there to support them and to be a witness. I see them, I hear them, and I will do my best to comfort them. And if the anxiety or panic attacks come, I will be there however they need me. I will hold their hand, hold them as they cry, or whisper words of encouragement to help them ground themselves.

This can apply to any kind of trauma. Sometimes it is hard for us to let go of a traumatic experience because we are afraid that everyone will forget about it, move on, and shame you if/when you have a hard day years down the road because “you have no reason to be upset anymore.” Which just isn’t true. Your emotions are valid. Just because you have moved on and let go does not mean that the memory won’t ever bother you again. It might, and that’s ok, and normal.

You are not crazy, and you are not damaged or broken. Your trauma is only a part of your story, it does not define who you are as a person. I became a doula to help survivors have better birth and postpartum experiences. I see you, I hear you, and I won’t ever forget.

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